Hahah that is so odd... that second type of hopelessness, where you-need-to-be-together-or-you'll-die... I associate that with romanticism, not realism~:)) Like, I was all set to say 'yeah! I totally look for that in fiction', but that's because I'm such a hopeless romantic at heart, y'know?
I really liked how you worked in the little things that they still did for each other-- and I suppose sometimes that's enough for people when they're really staid and not that passionate, y'know, and depend on routine. But it's like, your Harry & Draco are madly in love, so there's... there's something deeper, I guess? Like when Draco wakes up from the nightmare & goes to where Harry is in the shower and it's okay for a bit... it seems like they can give support to each other so easily and yet they don't.
So it's not like the little things make up for the glaring lack of the big things, it's just that there's something broken & that something is communication skills, y'know? In a way, that's why established-relationship H/D has always been so odd to me and I've never been able to write it at any length, 'cause I'd just imagine that once they -were- in a relationship, they'd have to learn enough to bridge that distance at some sort of instinctive level. Like, I know Harry is insensitive and awkward and Draco's defensive and overreacts a lot, but-- that's one of the main obstacles of getting them together at all, y'know? So I'd assume they'd find some sort of solution besides 'ignore it and pretend it doesn't exist except when you argue'.
It's like, one of the main issues here is that they talk -at- each other instead of -to- each other (Harry has his spiel and so does Draco), and that's how it always was... but Draco gave in already, which is what I found hopeless/upsetting/omg-how-could-Harry-do-that-to-him. If they were really clinging to status-quo, then Draco wouldn't have fought for Harry's sake or saved him or anything. It seems like Harry just doesn't understand that or had never thought of it-- and for that huge of a deal to go undealt-with, for him to still ignore the heart of what drives Draco and never really talk to him even though he changed everything for Harry... that's what made me feel as if the whole relationship was pointless, I guess, because they love, but not each other, not in the active sense of a mutual bond, 'cause it's Draco who gives and Harry who accepts, and... eh.
I run up against this problem with Harry a lot (taking Draco for granted, not changing his mind about Draco even when he has plenty of evidence to the contary), but this is also the thing I can tolerate least about him, I guess? Draco's a needy little bugger, too. So if his needs aren't being met, while Harry'd be all stoic, Draco would leave, yeah... and at that point I'd hope he wouldn't come back, is what I'm saying.
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I really liked how you worked in the little things that they still did for each other-- and I suppose sometimes that's enough for people when they're really staid and not that passionate, y'know, and depend on routine. But it's like, your Harry & Draco are madly in love, so there's... there's something deeper, I guess? Like when Draco wakes up from the nightmare & goes to where Harry is in the shower and it's okay for a bit... it seems like they can give support to each other so easily and yet they don't.
So it's not like the little things make up for the glaring lack of the big things, it's just that there's something broken & that something is communication skills, y'know? In a way, that's why established-relationship H/D has always been so odd to me and I've never been able to write it at any length, 'cause I'd just imagine that once they -were- in a relationship, they'd have to learn enough to bridge that distance at some sort of instinctive level. Like, I know Harry is insensitive and awkward and Draco's defensive and overreacts a lot, but-- that's one of the main obstacles of getting them together at all, y'know? So I'd assume they'd find some sort of solution besides 'ignore it and pretend it doesn't exist except when you argue'.
It's like, one of the main issues here is that they talk -at- each other instead of -to- each other (Harry has his spiel and so does Draco), and that's how it always was... but Draco gave in already, which is what I found hopeless/upsetting/omg-how-could-Harry-do-that-to-him. If they were really clinging to status-quo, then Draco wouldn't have fought for Harry's sake or saved him or anything. It seems like Harry just doesn't understand that or had never thought of it-- and for that huge of a deal to go undealt-with, for him to still ignore the heart of what drives Draco and never really talk to him even though he changed everything for Harry... that's what made me feel as if the whole relationship was pointless, I guess, because they love, but not each other, not in the active sense of a mutual bond, 'cause it's Draco who gives and Harry who accepts, and... eh.
I run up against this problem with Harry a lot (taking Draco for granted, not changing his mind about Draco even when he has plenty of evidence to the contary), but this is also the thing I can tolerate least about him, I guess? Draco's a needy little bugger, too. So if his needs aren't being met, while Harry'd be all stoic, Draco would leave, yeah... and at that point I'd hope he wouldn't come back, is what I'm saying.